Coping with a loved one’s attempted suicide is an incredibly difficult and emotional experience. The daily anxiety it creates can be overwhelming and confusing.  You may find yourself worrying about them being ok, “are they going to attempt again,” “are they ok,” “what if or when will they attempt again.” This can become all consuming.  It’s important to remember that you are not alone in this journey, and seeking support is crucial for both you and your loved one’s well-being.  It’s important to remember that you cannot control them, the situation, however, you can offer support, advice, or help for them in getting care.

First and foremost, take a moment to acknowledge your own feelings. This situation can evoke a wide range of emotions, including shock, guilt, anger, and sadness. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and it’s important to give yourself permission to experience these emotions without judgment. Learning how to cope with what is and is not in your control and how to handle the anxiety when it hits.  Learning what help and boundaries to set to help the situation can be vital to keeping a healthy and open relationship with them.

When it comes to your loved one, remember that they too are struggling with their own pain and don’t know how to express or cope with it. Approach the situation with patience, compassion, and understanding. Let them know that you care and that you’re there to support them. It’s important to have boundaries while respecting their boundaries as well. Pushing them to talk about their feelings before they’re ready might be counterproductive.

Encourage your loved one to seek professional help. Mental health professionals can provide the necessary guidance and treatment during these challenging times. Often, they need the support outside of family or friends as it can be a shameful thing to admit how they are struggling and feel that people won’t understand.

Open communication is vital. Gently express your concern and listen actively when they’re ready to share. Avoid judgment and criticism; instead, offer a non-judgemental space where they can express their feelings without fear. 

Self-care is crucial for both you and your loved one. Encourage them to engage in activities they enjoy and that promote well-being. Likewise, take care of yourself by maintaining a healthy routine, getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.

Remember that recovery is a process, and setbacks can happen. Celebrate small victories and offer reassurance during difficult times. Building a strong support system is also important. Connect with friends, family members, or support groups who can offer empathy, advice, or simply a listening ear.

Lastly, if you ever fear that your loved one is in immediate danger, do not hesitate to seek professional help or contact emergency services. Your loved one’s safety is the top priority.

Coping with a loved one’s attempted suicide is an ongoing journey that requires patience, understanding, and support. Reach out for support.  You are not alone, and there is hope and recovery.  We are here to help.