Losing someone to suicide can be one of the most devastating, confusing, and life shattering experiences one can go through. The pain and emotions that suicide loss survivors face are unique and complex. Unlike other forms of loss, suicide leaves behind unanswered questions, unspoken words, and a profound sense of guilt. Survivors often struggle to make sense of what happened and may blame themselves and have a multitude of “what ifs” to make sense of it. The grief that follows a suicide loss is overwhelming and can lead to a wide range of emotions such as sadness, anger, guilt, shame, sorrow, anxiety and even relief. It is a rollercoaster of emotions that seems never-ending.

Suicide loss survivors often find it challenging to talk about their experience due to the stigma and shame associated with suicide. Friends and family members may not fully understand the depth of their pain, leading to a sense of isolation.  Oftentimes, it is family and close friends that can unknowingly be the most hurtful in situations like this. The need for support in such situations is crucial. Support groups, therapy, and peers can provide a safe space for survivors to share feelings, thoughts, and experiences without judgment. Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can be particularly beneficial, as they can offer empathy, validation, and understanding that is difficult to find elsewhere.  Sometimes it is the eye contact, with no words attached that you need when you know the person on the other end “truly gets” what you are going through.

It is important to acknowledge that this journey is not about “healing” but rather learning to live with the loss as you navigate what life now looks like.  The grief may never fully go away, but with time and support, it can become more manageable. Survivor support services can help you navigate the complexities of grief and provide coping strategies to take each new step, day by day.   Education and awareness about suicide prevention and mental health are also essential in creating a compassionate and understanding society. Both your life experiences and theirs are important in helping each other find value, meaning, and purpose in life.

Everyone deserves compassion, empathy, and non-judgmental support. By breaking the silence surrounding suicide, offering understanding, and providing resources, we can create an environment where survivors feel validated, heard, understood, and supported. No one should have to face the aftermath of suicide alone, and it is our collective responsibility to ensure that help is available for those who need it. Together, we can foster an environment of hope, resilience, and meaning for you as you learn to navigate this journey of a new reality and learning to re-define life.